1 (edited by beamer 2017-10-25 18:51:15)

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Well my Chordie family,

There are a few of you who I have talked of my father in law with. about our Love Hate relationship and how hard it has been to deal with the less notable aspects of him being in my life. 

Last night about 1030 Washington time, My wife got the call that her father has passed.  just the day before  we had been told he had been to the hospital and had refused treatment.  The Hospice nurse only spent less than I think 8 hours with him, she said he rolled over and died in his sleep.

The last year has been a rough one for Bill, he went downhill very fast. 
This is going to be very hard on my wife, , I am 2 sides of things here. The first side is I am glad he went quick and quiet.  The other side is a sense of relief that maybe my wife can finally live without worry over him.  She has been raising her father since she was 7 or so (her father in all truth was an adult child who had many issues and many wives and children yet never planned for his future, and by marriage I have had to deal with his bad choices my whole marriage and it has caused many a marital fights)
So as you see when I say love/ hate relationship, this is the stem of it.
He had his good and funny moments, and he helped our family where he could while I was away at sea, so for that I will remember in a good light.  He also really loved to Rock and Roll.  He was the grandpa who showed up in the kids pick up line blasting Megadeath and Type O Negitive and all the friends of the kids liked him also.  He was quick to smile and laugh and help a lot of people through their addictions as an AA sponsor.
As it turns out he will be moving on with one of the greats and that should make him happy.  So Bill, hang out with FATS and travel up Blueberry Hill one last time.

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As I like to say, the only thing missing here is him shooting you a bird. LOLOL smile
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Sorry for your loss Beamer.  Hopefully the reduction in stress from the hard stuff once all the estate stuff is dealt with will be a relief, though certainly your family will still miss the fun stuff.

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Condolences to you and your family Beamer.

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Beamer,
Hope your days ahead are peaceful and enjoyable.
Condolences to you and your wife.

Jim

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Zurf wrote:

Sorry for your loss Beamer.  Hopefully the reduction in stress from the hard stuff once all the estate stuff is dealt with will be a relief, though certainly your family will still miss the fun stuff.

Well, there is no Estate. had nothing to leave. We basically gave away the 5th wheel he lived in that was basically duck-taped together, (we did build a very nice porch for it)  and his son took the motorcycle and sold it for a couple thousand and paid some stuff, so we don't have anything there to settle.

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– George Lynch 2013 (Dokken, Lynchmob, KXM, Tooth & Nail etc....)

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And thanks guys. Por all the PITA he caused he was still a fun character to have known.

“Find your own sound.  Dont be a second rateYngwie Malmsteen be a first rate you”

– George Lynch 2013 (Dokken, Lynchmob, KXM, Tooth & Nail etc....)

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Condolences to you and your wife and also to your children who have lost a grandfather who, for all his faults, sounds like a real fun grandpa to have. So sorry for you loss.

Roger

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Thanks Roger

“Find your own sound.  Dont be a second rateYngwie Malmsteen be a first rate you”

– George Lynch 2013 (Dokken, Lynchmob, KXM, Tooth & Nail etc....)

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It's hard to lose someone that meant so much to you and your family. My mother in law was very similar, she was brilliant 30 years ago but as she got older she got to be an sob especially to my wife. We still mourn her passing.

Condolences to you and your family.

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The disfunctional  family member  can never be easy to deal with in many ways.. It is good  that you can remember Bill's good side.
Condolences to you and your family.

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Sorry to hear about the loss of your father in-law and your wife`s dad.  Love / hate relationships are always hard.  As Peatle said, best to just think about the good side and good stuff that happened with him.  Thinking of you at this time beamer.

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13 (edited by Tenement Funster 2017-10-27 09:43:02)

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I'll echo what Peatle said about retaining the good memories you have of him. Condolences to you, and of course to your dear wife.

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So Sorry for your loss Scott.

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thanks again everyone

“Find your own sound.  Dont be a second rateYngwie Malmsteen be a first rate you”

– George Lynch 2013 (Dokken, Lynchmob, KXM, Tooth & Nail etc....)