Topic: Mum Stories
My mum turned ninety seven last year. She gave a speech about her outlook on her life mostly to a bunch of high school teenagers. People seemed to enjoy it. Most probably because she is my Mum I thought it was good. She gave me a copy of it and I thought I would share it on here. I was wondering if anyone else would like to share a story about their Mum
Here I am ninety seven years since the world welcomed me.
Born on the Island of Ovalau in a town of Levuka Fiji.
Me the daughter of an Australian man.
The old style plantation manager.
He also was a Trader at times travelling around the many Island of Fiji in his boats.
A trucker of the seas.
Not remembered well by his workers .
A man who didnt mean much to me.
My mum and dad so differant in backgrounds.
My mother's grandfather was a great Fijian chief.
By the time I was nine my sister and I were boarded out.
Mother lying beneath the earth.
Now part of our cemetery.
One of my brother's sent to Australia.
Learning to be a good European.
I always loved European culture
I never loved those superior Europeans.
Those who thought themselves refined.
The sorts that tried to make my Fijian culture seem inferior.
My other older brother's were put to work at sea.
There are many other half siblings.
My father had children to woman in the differant locations he went to.
They were more or less strangers to me.
Some he owned some he disowned.
When we turned twelve my sister and I were pulled out of school and put to work.
My father couldnt see the point of educating girls.
Woman to him were mere servants there for the enjoyment of man.
My father was more of a passing aquaintance.
I never got to know him that well.
My Fijian side and our local Catholic Nuns were where I received my love.
Also a Jewish lady who my sister and I were boarded with gave us emotional love and care.
My sister and I grew up knowing we could do better. .
We became strong woman both stubborn and not fightened of a fight..
Nobody was going to hold us back.
We studied as adults and improved ourselves.
My sister going to University and becoming a teacher with the help of her husband.
In 1942 aged twenty Two in the middle of the war I travelled across the Pacific to New Zealand.
I had to leave Fiji so my first daughter could be born in a place that had better medical facilities.
With the war going on it wasn't easy to get back to Fiji so I never returned to see my daughter's father again.
I was no longer a Catholic divorced people punished by the church in those days.
I was next married to a South American man who I met in New Zealand.
We moved to the the Cook Islands.
We lost a son and that marriage ended.
Now I am older I realise I would have been hell to live with.
Lets say I have given birth to five children.
To three differant fathers,
Also other adopted stragglers who call me mum.
I am proud my kids turned out to be their own people.
Respectful polite and not scared to be themselves.
My relationships with many men has not been good.
New Zealand has been good to me.
It taught me about life outside what I had known.
I went on to be educated many new doors were opened to me..
I am proud my kids didn't become harsh and hard on their own kids and family as I was to them
If I dont wake up in this world tomorrow.
I will be happy I have seen what I need to see.
The young will always be same .
They know alot about nothing until experience comes their way.
One of my passions in life is studying religons of the world.
I know people see the havoc created in the name of religon.
I understand that.
For me without my fath in God.
I would have given up on the good things in life.
All I can say to my many friends who have no faith.
I do not judge you at all it is not my place.
Now I am older I have learnt more about looking for good in everyone.
At ninety seven I have thrown away my sword.
I come to you my friends and family in peace.
What sort of connection can I possibly have with anyone.
Is the question I have asked myself when confronted by differance .
Those whose histories are so differant from mine.
The answer is simple .
We just need to celibrate our diversity.
Live for a better future.
Learn from our past.