Now that I've had the chance to think about it, I guess I have a few things that get my goat.
- Cruelty. Not meaning tough love where firmness makes a kid cry but your intentions are to teach an important lesson. I mean inflicting pain for no reason except to salve your own frustration type of cruelty.
- Deception. Hanging out with me can be difficult, because I don't like deception. I don't even like the "doesn't your hair look great" when it looks like crap but the person just paid $200 to get it to look like crap sort of white lies. So, I tell people what I think, or I hold my tongue remembering what my Gram taught me about not saying anything if you haven't got anything nice to say. But usually I can get creative like Pollyanna and come up with something nice AND honest to say about anything or anyone.
Manipulation - I don't like people thinking for me, or for others in general. Think for yourself and let others think for themselves. Don't go protecting them from themselves either. They aren't go to learn if you do, and maybe just maybe they don't have the same dislikes and distastes and don't find whatever outcome that's coming to be unpleasant. I hate being gamed or played. I am very good at spotting when someone is gaming me. So good in fact, that I made a living off it for near on to twenty years. As a negotiator, it was my job to figure out what people were up to and to take an informed decision as to whether or not to let them.
There you have it. I don't like cruelty, deception, or manipulation. I'm sure there's more, but those are some biggies. The rest are probably just nits and may fit into one of these three anyway.
- Zurf