Frills

It's sure not the easiest way, as guitarists are a lazy lot who like to have a song tabbed out perfectly right in front of them.  Unfortunately, when searching internet tabs, there's many that are incorrect or someone's "own version" of a song.  My advice is to listen to the song carefully with your guitar, and try to figure it out by ear.  It's more work, but also more rewarding.  Good luck.

Thanks guys!  i did think that would be the answer, so at least now I know.  Thanks again

Pat

OK - gonna jump on the band wagon here. These guys have said it like it is my friend. Spend hours (maybe not all at once), but hours with your guitar and the recording and work it out.
One little trick that I use though to figure out the structure of a song is rather than trying to play along with a song's rhythm, try picking out a lead. This will get you going up and down the fret board finding out where certain strings make the right sounds and if you already know what the song's basic chords are you will definitely learn from this experience, not to mention you might gain some speed and accuracy with fingering.
Also, a good song to get you picking up on the little fingering tricks is Wild World by Cat Stevens. The little run in the chorus takes some practice (here's a tip - it begins with the open F) but it will give you some new confidence and again, help you to hear what kinds of sounds can happen with just a little effort. Lastly, if you're playing by ear along with the recording make absolutely sure your guitar is tuned to concert pitch (440 hz). Otherwise it will never sound quite right.
Cheers & good luck!