Artless wrote: Detman101 wrote:
Hey man, I can't say that I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. If it wasn't working out, it probably wasn't meant to be. I know you probably can't see that or think about it now...but later on you will look back and realize you made the best decision.
You're probably right about the idea of ending a marriage if it's not working, but if you're the one being divorced it's hard to believe in such an idea. I've lost so much because of my wife's decision to divorce, including the woman I loved, my job, my savings, and my health. Some really wonderful things are going to have to happen before I'll be able to look back and realize any of this was for the good.
Divorce...and our slack-sided justice system...are made for women.
(Good) Men do not usually benefit from divorce or even break even when it's an amicable split and both parties just want to go their separate ways. Somehow...the law steps in and fudges it all up. I told my wife, I'm only doing this ONE time in my lifetime and there isn't going to be anyone BUT her in my life. She can take it how she wants to take it but I'm not ever dating or marrying again if she dies or leaves me for some odd reason. It's just not worth the hassle of getting to know someone again and spending all that time all over again...ugh.
I've lost so much because of my wife's decision to divorce, including the woman I loved, my job, my savings, and my health. Some really wonderful things are going to have to happen before I'll be able to look back and realize any of this was for the good.
The same thing happened to my cousin. He lost everything when he and his wife split. and it's not like he had much to begin with.
But sure as sin..the courts gave her everything. Luckily his house and harley were transferred into his mother's name long before the split happened.
I tell my wife all the time...being married to me is like the mafia. Only way out is blood or witness protection.
If it's ever my turn you can put Jail or death by cop onto the end of my list.
On the other hand, my ex-wife seems really happy now.
Yeah, that justice system again...and the fact that there are way more easy opportunities to have a hole filled (if you know what I mean) than there are for a man to put the wrecked aftermath of their life back together and have people understand or be sympathetic. It seems when this happens to a man, that's when the whole world caves in and decides to take it's lumps. The job decides to fire you because you're not performing the way you used to, the car decides to blow an engine or transmission, all those little symptoms you've been feeling over the years decide to mestastasize into full blown sicknesses and your relatives all get REAL busy and can't find the time or opportunity to help you.
Life...it really sucks sometimes.
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